The realities of your position

We all hold different positions in our lives, whether it is at work, at home, or in your social circle. But it the power of those positions that confuse many people, or lead others to figure out how they can use it to their advantage.

Each of us have individuals in their life who enact in such behavior. Now I am not going to say that we all don’t engage in it. I am a big proponent of networking and maintaining those networks for rainy day. But with that said, witnessing the misuse of the network or individuals you call you friends is appalling. It seems to be a regular trend; unfortunately, those beginning taken advantage often don’t have much of a recourse.

You can’t change who you are or your personality which has developed allowing you to connect with others. You can’t change your friends, the individuals that they have become, because they just haven’t gained a certain skill set.

A useful understanding: “The quality of an individual is reflected in the standards they set for themselves.” - Ray Kroc (1902 - 1984).

Realize that it isn’t your fault; all you can do is try to help. But know your limits, often it can be frustrating. Realize that the internal monologue of others is on one track, and is incapable of jumping on to others. Know that you can’t establish the function of any relationship, that isn’t your decision.

You have two options:

• Decide to exist in the relationship, knowing that not everyone is capable or willing to understand the things that are important to you, but choose only to focus on themselves.
• Decide to terminate the relationship or parts of it so that you can continue with it knowing that it won’t be like the others.

The reality of the position you hold on this earth, often isn’t your choosing. More often, you are chosen to play a role that others may not understand. Embrace who you are, what you are capable of and who you will be ….eventually. Be grateful that you appreciated for your abilities, but don’t lose sight of the motivations can exist.

A reality: “Enlightenment doesn't occur from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality.” - Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)